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Ever the controversialist, I decided to once again tackle common-held perceptions of sexuality which are oft perpetuated in both ‘hetero’ and ‘homo’ camps.

Yesterday, with the obvious intention of commencing debate, I posted the following comments on Twitter:

One of the biggest enemies to the acceptance of human homosexuality has been the coining of the term ‘homosexuality’.


I understand why some want to identify themselves as ‘gay’, but it is as unnatural as calling yourself ‘straight’.


It didn’t take long for one of my more loyal Twitter followers from Scotland to take me on:


You are one of the wisest men on here, but I couldn’t do anything to a woman. I fell asleep in biology too.


I am not implying that anyone has to be sexual with both sexes, but identifying with A sexuality is unnecessary and unnatural.  


So does this mean you are open to a bit of cock on the right person or am I being crass?


Tis rather crass. It means I don’t feel the need to tell anyone or anything. Its between me and whoever I’m having sex with.   Thing is. If you’re asking, not sure you’ve fully understood my point.


It’s almost betraying ourselves to have any dealings with a women. Tho most of us can French Kiss & do titties.


While that may be how you feel, I don’t think you represent all ‘gay’ men.  Idea of ‘betrayal’ to your sexuality is exactly my point.   I worry that this view is as unhelpful to a real expression of human sexuality as those who denounce homosexuality.  


It’s not just that though, we may have the same childish, romantic memes but it really isn’t going to happen.

I’m sorry, I’m not sure I entirely understand your point.

But that’s because you are straight, you don’t get put the same process.

I have not grown up ‘straight’. I have not grown up ‘gay’. ‘Gay’ people do not have a monopoly on homosexuality.   I have made conscious effort never to define myself as a sexuality. So have been through my own ‘process’, as we all have.  

No, I am all for hetero/homo respect which you represent but some things you just have to have grown up gay to understand.


No-one ‘grows up gay’. ‘Gay’ is the identity and refuge one finds that is most accepting of the preferences you have.  We all grow up in a heterocentric world and ‘gay’ is only a reaction to this. How we each relate to it is our own process.

OK so what do I term myself in ways the people who might have a mutual want understand?

Why do you need a group of people to understand? Go to a ‘gay’ club, join a ‘gay’ dating site. That is their function, but it is unnecessary to let this be an identity or limit your natural human sexuality even if it means you only ever have gay sex.  

I hate watermelons. But I don’t let my preferences define me or preclude from liking watermelons in the future.  

I don’t but where else am I going to see a male stripper (a rare species in Scotland).

In a gay club. I’m not saying don’t go to ‘gay’ clubs and do things where people who wish to explore their homosexual side go.  Equally, if you’re into swinging, you go to a swingers’ club.  Sharing a preference with like-minded people is absolutely acceptable.

I don’t get this one.

OK.  I like apples and oranges.  I prefer oranges but I like both, as do many people.  Some prefer one or the other.   Is there any point in my life where I’ve ever felt the need to exclaim I am mostly into oranges and allowed it to define me?  


I recognise many people think I am making a mute point, but I actually think its an important one that few people recognise.

I absolutely understand how finding a community that accepts them & shares a preference is helpful to ‘gay’ people in feeling  they belong and are embraced.  However, the perpetuation of the idea of ‘gay’ does not help the wider population and its acceptance of homosexuality as a normal sexual act for anyone to explore. That ‘gay’ people have added to division in society and taken exclusive ownership of, and monopolised a side of human sexuality which is simply that, just one side of it.  Instead, the identification of an individual as being either ‘gay’ or ‘straight’ has created narrow-mindedness in both camps to the natural human inclination for what is commonly described as ‘bisexuality’. And yet too often those in ‘gay’ and ‘straight’ communities deny its existence.


I also received the following comments on Facebook to my original points:


Your comment sounds rather glib. Do you have the faintest idea what it is like to be a gay person in a heterosexist, hetero-majority world, in which your innate and perfectly natural sexual feelings towards the same sex are still viewed as abhorrent and perverse by many? To know that half the planet (at least) thinks you have no right to exist? To live with the intense shame of a gay identity about which you have no choice? For many, being able to positively identify as gay is part of a long and tortuous journey out of shame, oppression and humiliation. Please don’t belittle it.

To which, I responded:

 

I understand all of that. This is the result of our society’s oppression of the act of homosexuality. I understand the sense of belonging and the need for acceptance within such a thing as the ‘gay’ community for a people who have felt ostracised and discriminated against for their feelings and preferences. However, this does not make it any more a ‘natural’ thing for a human, a sexual being, to do. I understand the reasons behind it, it does not mean that I accept that it is a natural phenomenon or one that is indeed helpful for the population at large to find acceptance for the act of homosexuality and preopenderence towards homosexuality that can be present in everyone. I understand how the need for humans to identify themselves as ‘gay’ has appeared, but I also recognise the divisiveness this further creates and the monopoly that some within that ‘community’ have over the concept of homosexuality rather than allowing all humans to take ownership over that and every other aspect of their own sexuality.




Once again, its always good to have the debate.  What are your thoughts?  Feel free to leave your comments and opinions too.




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I was deeply disturbed by a recent event that took place at my old university. According to The Independent, students attending a debate about sharia law organised by the Atheism, Secularism and Humanism Society at Queen Mary University in London were told they would be “hunted down and killed” by a man who burst into their lecture theatre and filmed them on his phone.  The man had reportedly been motivated by a call to action placed on extremist website, Islamic Awakening.

After I was informed of this, I made the following postings on Twitter:

How long are we going to let religious nutcases who have no evidence for their beliefs, threaten, harm & kill us in our own free-thinking land?  You might be able to bully & beat religion into your own children, but don’t fucking dare threaten me with your unsubstantiated bullshit.  The idea that religion, by sheer virtue of being a religion, demands respect is utter nonsense. It requires no more respect than the respect it has for other groups in society. Which is not a lot much of the time.

I was then pleasantly surprised to be joined in a debate by one of my former students who challenged some of my views, particularly the manner in which I had expressed them:

I dunno, that seems to me to be a bit of a generalisation.  I’m anti-religion myself, but to state that religious groups not be respected undermines society’s views on tolerance all together, right?  We should respect all groups of people regardless of if what they’re saying makes complete sense or it’s all utter bullshit.

Its not the bullshit I have no respect for, it is the lack of respect some religions have for others and yet expect respect.  

Sure but that applies to extremists.  It appears (to me anyway) like you’re criticising all religious people.

It definitely applies to extremists but, I would argue, also applies to some who might class themselves as moderates too.  

 We should absolutely tolerate difference, but for things we have choice over, we must be prepared to justify and be judged for.  Tolerance for the intolerant is surely intolerable even for the most tolerant if the safety and security of all is paramount.   I promote tolerance of difference for things which we have no control over. My tolerance does not extent to hate-mongers.

Which isn’t the case because the majority of religious people i know are peaceful, respectful and -to an extent- open-minded.

Many religious people are indeed. But many are not and they use religion to justify their actions.  Those who are peaceful and respectful are so in spite of their religion, not usually because of it.  They are pickers and choosers and ignore the most wicked and brutal parts of their religion.  Which is good for society, of course.  But their moderation comes from a moderate society, not from a religion.   I am not thankful to their religion for their moderation, I am thankful to an enlightened society that has impacted on their interpretation of their religion to justify to themselves and make it seem more respectful and relevant to others.

Exactly, and I commend liberal thinkers who take into account sociological changes when interpreting and practicing their religion and respect them more for it.   The beauty of free people do not have to follow religious texts to the word and can change aspects of it.  I don’t think religions should be viewed as institutions set in stone that cannot be changed, so I think it’s wrong to criticise religion itself, rather criticise those who are too narrow-minded to accept different views.

I do not disagree with you at all, (think I share a lot in common with you to be honest) but, playing devil’s advocate, let me present the following arguments to you:

- If a holy text is, as some believe, the actual word of God, why would it need changing?

- Is not the changing of interpretation to suit modern society simply a PR campaign by some in those religions to make it appear more palatable and spread the delusion of God to people who might otherwise question it?

- Should the fundamentalists not at least have more respect for the fact they are not ‘pick and mix’ followers?

- If a God-created religion needs changing, isn’t it evidence that it was not created by a God at all?  If she has, surely she would have had the foresight to have predicted these societal changes.

Hmm… I guess, because personally I view all religions as different interpretations of one ‘higher entity’,   I pretty much disregard the validity of ‘holy’ texts.  So when I look at them I’m more inclined to be focusing on positive aspects they promote, and disregard the more negative as mere views of the time that they were written, which is why I, on the whole, respect religion but condemn religious fundamentalism.

But if you disregard the texts you disregard the whole basis of Judaism, Christianity & Islam and simply say that their belief is a belief in a higher entity and that is all. Which clearly gels with your own interpretation, but isn’t that you basically saying that each of those religions is based on utter bullshit except for the fact they believe in a higher entity?  Therefore expressing, as I was, a lack of respect for much of the basis of each of the main religions in this land.

I think any religion is just a human attempt to conceptualise and understand a higher entity, or ‘God’, so I wouldn’t call the basis of religion ‘utter bullshit’, just an attempt to rationalise the world as we know it and I think it’s a false dichotomy (A level English ;) ) to say you either respect or disrespect religion as a whole.

But your belief is not in a religion but in a higher entity. So if a text, which is the basis of these religions, is simply a human effort to rationalise the world as we know it at the time that we know it, isn’t that therefore a nice way of saying it is ‘utter bullshit’?  That it is man-made twoddle and the only leg they, rather shakily, stand on is a belief in an unproven higher entity?

I know of some interpretations of some religions for which I have more respect for.  But I do not respect them automatically because of their religious status.  Religions too often have an untouchable status in our society which elevates them to a level which some seem to think excludes from criticism and ridicule.  ’Religions’ are, after all, no different from ‘cults’.  The differences are only in numbers of followers and length of life-span that has granted them greater acceptance in society.

 I’m not saying I disrespect religion per se.  I’m saying they should not just expect respect because they are a religion.  Of course, I do not class all religious people under the same light or, indeed, all denominations of a given religion.  

Clearly, I would not class you as someone who is religious.  Believing in a higher entity does not make you religious.

So what would your view be on the Danish newspaper that depicted the prophet Mohammed?

Denmark is not a Muslim country.

Denmark is a democracy.

Why should rules that people who choose to be Muslims follow be imposed on those of us who choose not to be Muslims?  If visitors to Saudi Arabia must accept the principles of a violent and brutal Sharia legal system, then those who choose to reside and visit Denmark must accept that it is a free-thinking and democratic system with its own laws, none of which are dictated to them by any religion whatsoever.   

Its funny how so many newspapers in Islamic states will make anti-semitic comments or characterise Jewish people, but the moment a newspaper in a non-islamic state pokes fun at their religion the reaction of some muslims is of threats of death and violence.

As a citizen of the UK who chooses to continue to reside here, the only laws I follow are the laws of the land.  I am not Christian, Jew, Muslim, Sikh, Hindu, Buddhist, Jain, etc.  Anyone from any of those religions tries to impose their rules on me they can (with no respect whatsoever) fuck right off.

I can’t really comment on islamic newspapers because i’ve never seen one LOL, but, in regards to the Danish one, surely that was an issue of disrespect for a religion, despite the fact Denmark is a secular state, the press should still have respect for a rule which is so highly regarded in the q’ran, although perhaps religions and religious people (even  though the number of people who think like this is small) should be open to criticism.  But i think it would lead to a lack of  intolerance to other religions.  Wait i’ve lost my train of thought :S

Ah, but this is exactly the crux of my argument: Why should any religion command respect just because those who believe it might be offended? This is ridiculous.

This is a religion that often has no respect for anyone who dissents from it in lands where Islam is the official religion.  That will stone, hang, beat, lash anyone who does anything they deem as ‘wrong’.  

The West is too often too scared to criticise precisely because of the extremists (not only in Islam) who are nothing more than bullies, brutes and psychopaths who believe they have a god on their side.  

Should we have to cower to them because of this?   

 Should we have to tip-toe and be victims of their bullying tactics or should, like the brave editors of the Danish newspaper, actually say, ‘look, you live by your rules I live by mine! Don’t like them, fuck off to a land where you agree with the rules.’

Too many people use the West as a money-making entity but have zero respect for our brand of tolerance and throw it right back  in our faces.  You want to live in a land where people are not free to criticise others, or express themselves sexually or according to their own religious beliefs or even possess none, as free/equal women, then please, go to Saudi Arabia or Iran or numerous other Islamic states.  You have options.  This land is for people who CHOOSE to live somewhere not dictated to by religious dogma.

Practice what the hell you want in this land, but don’t impose it on others.    

Any religion worth its weight in gold (or any other matter) should have no problem with being questioned. Its only because it fears people knowing too much or being able to question too much that it imposes such rigid and intolerant practices.  Any religion that imposes such practices is not a real religion.  If ‘believers’ only believe because they are bullied into it through coercive means and abusive practices, then its not a belief, is it?  Its an imposition.

Religion, where it fails, bullies and abuses, must be exposed.

We should never be too scared to stand up to the hypocrises of religion. 

Very, very, very true.

Noooooo! Don’t give in that easily!!!!

Can we continue this after my economics homework is done? :’(








  • Its your opinion. It is not something I can say is correct or incorrect. That is the nature of an opinion. If I was to reflect on my own experience as a teacher, I would admit to several faults and areas that need to be improved upon. I did indeed accept and receive some criticism while I was a teacher and was grateful to receive it. However, at the time, I had no-one tell me I was a 'terrible' teacher and would argue that is something of an exaggeration, even if I was not great at my job. Opinions are much better expressed and considered more credible if and when provided with evidence. Anyone can express an opinion, it takes a bit more of a brain to back it with evidence.

  • I cannot help if this is the way you interpret me. I give honest responses. I try not to insult anyone. If I come across as snooty and arrogant well, I've realised that there's not an awful lot I can do about that. As long as I am being myself, being truthful about who I am, you cannot account for how others will perceive you. You cannot please all people all the time. I'm not going to go through life worrying about what everyone thinks. As long as I am content with myself that I have done nothing to intentionally harm anyone, then that is all that really matters and as long as those people who really know me and do not base our friendship on what they read, hear or see on Facebook, Twitter, in a paper, on the radio or on TV, all of which is open to mis-interpretation, spin and mis-respresentation, can stand by me and continue to call me their friend, then that is what is most important to me. I am not on a PR campaign here. What you think, is of your concern, not mine. I do not force anyone to like, follow or support me and I will certainly never do anything with the express intent of making people like or agree with me. That would be wrong.

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So the city of Los Angeles has voted 9-1 in favour of making condom use in any pornography produced within the city’s limits mandatory.

Am I the only one in Pornland who doesn’t think this is such a bad move?  Pointless, perhaps, but not bad.

To be fair, my citizenship of Pornland has been rather questionable recently and feels like it might be revoked any time soon.  I haven’t appeared in any productions for several months (except my own, of course).  This may have something to do with the fact that I no longer reside in London or it could possibly be because I have become somewhat vocal about my views on condoms in porn.

Not that anyone is taking much notice of me.    I mean, I’ve only really made a name for myself as the ‘porn star teacher’.  Prior to that, the only thing I apparently had going for me, as producers often told me, was my looks and my physique (which doesn’t really say an awful lot about the quality of ‘talent’ in the British porn industry), oh, and some mention of my penis being a decent size too.  Believe me, I certainly was not used for my amazing sexual prowess or my astounding abilities as a solid porn performer because, as I’m the first to admit, I am no such thing.

As a former teacher of, amongst other things, sex education and as someone who has worked in pornography and been openly criticised for not ‘practicing what I preached’ by not always performing using protection, I do however hold an opinion that some want to hear and many others wish to contest.

When I first performed in pornography, I worked for a company that proudly claimed to strictly produce condom-only videos.  I remember quite distinctly the director stating that the fear of compromising the health of his performers and the possibility of law suits following such unfortunate, although slim, possibilities, just wasn’t worth pursuing a ‘bareback’ route, even though many others in the market had already gone there.

A year or so later, this company seemed to have brushed its formerly held strong opinions aside and made the decision to join the rest of the market by requiring that their male performers no longer wear protection. 

Was I a little taken aback by this decision?  Yes, indeed I was.

Did I question in my own mind whether or not I should carry on performing in pornography?  Yes, indeed I did.

And yet, I carried on.

One could argue that if I felt so strongly that I should have the courage of my convictions and stand up to non-condom using production companies by refusing to work with them.   If I had done this, believe me, my porn ‘career’ would have taken a pretty fast nose-dive.   (I can already hear some amongst you utter the words: “Yes.  So?”).

Sure, if I had stopped back in 2004, who knows whether I would be in the position I am now.  Arguably, I am in a far more advantageous position to have, at least, some influence, because I stuck with the porn, than if I’d given up back then.   Indeed, I certainly wouldn’t have been in the newspapers,  on the radio or TV, seeing as the porn I did back then was not the porn that my ex-students discovered and led me to getting the sack.  I would have resigned from teaching in 2010, as I originally had planned, and slipped off quietly into the sunset to the house in Herault that I was planning on buying.  Alas, for right or wrong, this never happened.

Now, however small it may be, I have some clout.  Not a lot, but more than if I’d never barebacked before.

You see, I’m not entirely against ‘bareback’ pornography in principle. 


Ideally, I would wish that all pornography did promote and use condoms.  However, much like teaching, I believe the main function of pornography is not to preach.  As a teacher, my role was to inform.  As a form of entertainment, the role of pornography is to provide enjoyment for its viewer, while, in my opinion, taking some efforts to be conscious of the power it holds and the messages it can, at times, convey. 

I believe that the use of contraception should be a choice.    If it is the choice of the performers (all performers involved) to not use protection and all parties have been tested, then I believe that is their choice.  

However, the choice should be the performers’ and not the production company’s.  The problem exists however when that choice is taken away from the performer.  When I was hired by a company to appear in their production, the only real choice I had was to perform without a condom or not perform at all, thereby forgoing the job and any financial recompense along with it, not to mention jeopardising the possibility of gaining any work in the future.  This is not a real choice.

There are some in the industry who would argue that the current measures requiring sexual health screening every 30 days is adequate enough and, bearing in mind that, for many performers, this is their job, their sole source of income, it is in their interest to maintain an impeccable and clean sexual health record, otherwise no work and, therefore, no money.  Unfortunately, however, as reliable as some within the industry are, I am not always so trusting of everyone (be they porn ‘stars’ or otherwise).  Between each 30 day test, performers can, of course, contract an STI that would not show on a certificate.  One of the biggest flaws of these tests, is the fact that HIV has an incubation period of three weeks.  This means that, even if contracted, HIV would not show on any test during this period.  The porn industry in the UK will point to the fact that there has never been any case of HIV contracted by a performer (not so the case for other ‘lesser’ STIs), but this does not negate the possibility existing or being elevated by the lack of condom use.

Some pornographers will also claim that, even in the USA, cases of HIV contraction within the industry have been so small as to cause any real concern.  In any other industry in the developed world, the fact that there are any deaths (or inevitable deaths) would be reason enough for its practices to be re-examined and, in many cases, tougher regulation introduced.  Why should pornography be exempt?

Some pornographers will identify difficulties with working with condoms: that they make maintaining an erection hard (or not, as the case may be), they break and tear and frequently dry up, causing filming to be longer and, inevitably, more awkward.  These things are all true.  Whoever said that maintaining health and safety standards was meant to be easy?  These are obstacles that are not impossible to overcome and should, with a producer and performer of a ‘professional’ standard, simply be part of the job.  For some porn houses in LA who churn out the same formulaic drivel (blowjob, position 1, 2, 3, cumshot) each and every day, the adding of several minutes to their conveyer belt of boring smut, whether it potentially prevents infection, saves lives and (god forbid), in the process, sends out a positive message, is obviously something that they simply could not tolerate.  Sympathy much, anyone?

I did, and still do, porn because I enjoy it.   It was never primarily for the money because I always had other jobs at the same time.  I don’t always agree with everything associated with pornography, but I will always fight for the principle of a society to make and enjoy sexual intercourse as a form of art and entertainment.  For some individuals, pornography is their main, or only source, of income for a period of their life.  The idea of turning to a producer and insisting on the use of condoms is just not realistic in the current climate where condoms just aren’t, apparently (although I see no evidence), what the audience like to see.  Indeed, the only time I have been required to wear condoms on a porn set since the early days of my ‘career’, were on the occasions that a girl I was to be performing with was unable to produce a valid sexual health certificate and it was too late to rearrange the shoot.

The reality is, that for performers within heterosexual pornography in this country, and in much of the world, there really isn’t much, if any, choice.  The only choice is in the hands of the producers who seem to be voting with their bank accounts (because they believe that condom porn just doesn’t sell) and not with their concern (if they have any) for the health and safety of their performers.

This is nothing new.  Since when has any industry shown any concern for the health and wellbeing of its employees unless it has been forced to do so?  Pornographers are no less or more immoral than any other money-hungry fat cat in any other sector of our capitalist society?

I have no problem with elements of risk.  We encounter risk every day in our lives.  Indeed some of the most enjoyable activities involve varying degrees of risk.  Some people pay vast sums of money in pursuit of sometimes the most risky of these activities (bungee jumping, sky-diving, formula 1 racing, shark watching, etc).  While the element will always remain, it is the responsibility of all parties involved to ensure they do absolutely everything within their power to place the health and safety of all participants at the highest degree they possibly can while still, of course, allowing the activity and enjoyment to go ahead.  While pornographers neglect to permit their performers to make a real choice about their own sexual health and safety, they cannot claim to be doing everything they possibly can not to be putting the lives of the people they employ to sell their product at a real risk of contracting a virus or infection that could, ultimately, render them infertile or dead.

While I may carry some concerns about the limitations on rights and the extent to which anyone or any organisation is coerced into an action, I actually commend the LA city council for standing up for the safety and wellbeing of individual performers who want to be able to work within pornography while equally want to stay as safe as they possibly can, but who might otherwise feel powerless against the corporate pornographic machine to do anything about it.

So, the fact that Los Angeles has now taken the choice away from the porn producer is a step in the right direction even though, as some will argue, it is at the expense of his constitutional rights.   However, I think the idea that porn companies, after now feeling bullied into using contraception by their city council, won’t take steps to ensure nothing hinders them from continuing their journey on a bareback obsessed bandwagon, is a tad optimistic.   I fear that it will ultimately have no effect whatsoever on the industry at large, except causing the relocation of companies to addresses outside of the city limits.  To those of us who do not reside in the ‘spiritual homeland’ of the porn industry, this will mean and change nothing.

One might have hoped that if pornographers were to put more imagination and effort into their productions, the fact that the male talent is wearing a thin layer of transparent latex should really make no difference to the viewer’s overall enjoyment.   I’ve always known that I’m a bit odd, but am I really the only one who gets greater enjoyment out of watching good quality, well shot, beautifully thought-out and protected sex on screen rather than close-ups of an anonymous, body-less, bareback cock ramming away for twenty minutes? 

From the first time I started viewing porn, I’ve always reminded myself that I’m watching someone’s daughter or son.  In some ways, this is how I’ve justified my own involvement: if you’re happy watching other people’s kids doing it, then you should have no problem with doing it yourself or knowing your own children do it.  I don’t have a problem.  Equally, I don’t have a problem watching people who have chosen to become boxers.  However, the moment they start punching each other in the head with no gloves, that’s when my enjoyment and the entertainment value becomes secondary to my concern for their well-being.  Or, yet again, am I really the only one who cares?  Do we really value human life and the safety and security of it so little that, as long as we’re getting off on it, nothing else really matters?   

Of course, this is capitalism, we’re all getting fucked by it in some way or another and, even if its not always directly responsible for our deaths, tends to have, for the majority of us, a habit of killing our dreams and suffocating our spirit, at some point along the way.  At least for porn ‘stars’, we’re getting fucked by getting fucked,  which , in some ways, is the best, or even better than, we could hope for.

‘Confessions of an X-rated teacher - Episode 13: ‘Sniffing Socks & Touring Tirana’

Before flying off to work in Tirana, Albania, Johnny is probed by his foster son while tidying his room and preparing for his trip.

‘The Johnny Anglais Show’: 20 - 4th January 2012

On tonight’s THE JOHNNY ANGLAIS SHOW at 9pm-11pm (GMT):

- Long distance relationships: do they ever work?
- Which invention has ruined society the most?
- What is your New Year’s sexual resolution?

AND Santorum and contraception, condoms in porn, and rapist of men’s mag reader?

PLUS ‘The Sex News’ with Randy McSeaman and more prizes to give away!

All of this, and more, on THE JOHNNY ANGLAIS SHOW:

http://www.spreaker.com/page#!/show/the_johnny_anglais_show

Skype in to studio: thejohnnyanglaisshow

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On Tuesday night, a report, by Fran Abrams on BBC Radio4’s ‘File on 4’, revealed that, of 200 local councils that were asked, 191 of them disclosed that there had been over 400 allegations of physical abuse at madrassas throughout Great Britain.  Despite the huge number of allegations, only 10 cases had been to court and only two resulting in convictions.  On top of this, the BBC also discovered 30 allegations of sexual abuse over the past three years.


As those of you who have been following me and my and my foster son’s campaign, ‘Azadi’, to, as one of its aims, bring an end to violence in madrassas in this country (http://epetitions.direct.gov.uk/petitions/13956), these allegations of abuse come as no surprise to us.  However what comes as a surprise and shock to me is the ongoing reluctance by many of those in the Muslim community to do anything about it.  Its actions are echoing the decades of abuse in the Catholic church, where, for many years there, as with the madrassas now, the attitude was to sweep it under the carpet and ignore it.


There are many in the Muslim community who even perceive it as quite normal and acceptable behaviour, some parents even encourage it.  When I spoke to some former students of mine who had attended madrassa, some who still do, and asked about physical abuse, the response was “yes, it happens, so what?”. 


There are those who argue that the Imams and teachers at these madrassas are only carrying on practices which are commonplace in such educational institutions in countries like Pakistan and Bangladesh, indeed where many of them are born and have spent their training.  However, yet again, this is an example of a religious group’s actions which, although may be tolerated by some or even many within its own community, is at loggerheads with the values of the system within which it now chooses to reside.


As a result of the inaction (and wide-scale acceptance) by much of the Muslim community to allegations of abuse, victims rarely report the crime.  Indeed, as Fran Abrams discovered, there are even cases where victims who have reported abuse and subsequently been ostracised by the community, despsite instances where the defendant was found guilty.  In other cases, victims who initially make allegations are pressured into dropping them, for fear of community reprisals and bringing dishonour onto the family and their community.


Whatever the official numbers of physical and sexual abuses in our country’s madrassas, Nazir Afzal, the chief crown prosecutor for the North West of England, said he believed the BBC’s figures represented “a significant underestimate”.


What is happening in many British madrassas is a national disgrace and, furthermore, a disgrace to a religious community that is often the first to point its finger when, the so-called, ‘morals’ of others do not fit in with its own.  For a religion that believes in the principle of “an eye-for-an-eye”, it appears only to come into practice so long as, whatever is revealed, does not bring its own religion into disrepute.


Recently, I was publicly criticised, in the Ilford Recorder, by a parent of a former student of mine, a Dr Anwar Hussein, who stated that he is:


“very angry that my child, with hundreds of other minors at Beal High, was subject to a teacher who was engaged in working in the adult sex industry, which, as a follower of Islam, I find highly immoral, repugnant and completely unacceptable and incompatible with my religious beliefs.” 




Without wishing to remind Dr Hussein that this is neither a Muslim country, nor is my former employer, Beal High School, a Muslim school, it might also do him some good to hold a mirror to his own community and ask why so many of those who share is ‘religious beliefs’ find it acceptable to tolerate activities that go against our shared British values.  He chooses to live here, I choose not to follow Islam, or any religion, thank you very much.  


Personally, I believe that whatever my child’s teachers do outside of the classroom is entirely a matter of their choice, but the moment that teacher beats my child with a stick or touches my child in a sexual manner at any time (not to mention within the school time!!!), then I will be pulling that child from that school and bringing forward allegations without a second thought AND not giving a stuff whatever those in the rest of my community think or care about it!  


Of course, Dr Hussein is an exception to this rule.  He would be one of the few within his community who would be brave enough to speak up and take a stand against the actions of some his fellow religious compatriots, of course he would, I have no doubt.


Meanwhile, yesterday my son came home and revealed to me that one of his good friends, a fellow Pakistani, is due to be ‘married off’ in February next year.  The girl is 17 years old and, despite her parents wishes, does not want to be married.  Indeed, she has other plans for herself.  The parents are moving to Saudi Arabia and are insistent, prior to their move, that their oldest daughter is to be married.


It riles me to the core that so many parents, particularly, although not exclusively, within the Asian community, feel that it is their right, as a parent, to dictate the romantic and sexual lives of their children, not to mention the education and career.  These are parents who, in many cases, have chosen (for whatever reason, often economic) to live in this society, to breed in this society, to bring up children in this society, knowing full-well what the values of this society are, and yet to impose, on their British-born children, values that go totally against the values that we in Britain instill in the minds of our young British citizens.


For many years, I have been a strong supporter of multi-cultural communities.  I still am.  I have done and will always fight racism and discrimination wherever its ugly head appears.  Well over half of my friends and associates are either born elsewhere or of foreign parentage.  And, believe me, there are many cases where I would rather a foreigner as a neighbour than an ignorant, insular, inbred Brit, as so many of us are.


I also share great empathy with the many ethnic communities who originate from lands that were formerly of the British Empire.  I recognise how this country took advantage of your lands and peoples for its own selfish benefit; how you were made to believe that the Queen is your Queen, London your capital city and that you also are as British as a British-born man.  And yet, the reality, when you arrived on these shores, has been very different.  I recognise those wrongs and the mistreatment that you have been subject to for many years on the Islands.


However, lets make it very clear: religion is not race.  Religion is a matter of belief and choice.  


Britain should absolutely open its arms to those who wish to live here and become proud, responsible citizens of this land.  But it should also make itself very clear to new arrivals, that, while they are welcome to live freely on these Isles and to choose to do, to themselves, and believe, within themselves, within the privacy of their own home, whatsoever they choose (as long as it is within the laws of the land) that there are certain values of being a resident and citizen of Britain that they should respect:  those of liberalism, equality and democracy and an absolute respect for the rights of the individual (rights which extend to children too, believe it or not).  


If, for whatever reason, your own values do not gel easily with those values that we hold dear in this country, well you have a choice:  to either adhere to those values or to choose to reside in another society that shares your values.


At school, I regularly had a form member and member of my Religious Education class, who happened to be Muslim, tell me how he believed that homosexuality was a sin and how all homosexuals should be executed.  This child’s parents were born in Pakistan, lived in Holland for many years and then decided, with full knowledge of the value system in our country, to move here.  My response to this student was always the same, “while I respect that is your opinion, you must recognise that this is not an opinion that is widely shared in this country. If you believe it so strongly, that it is so important to you to live in a society that shares that value, then you should choose, when you are old enough, to move yourself to a country where homosexuality is illegal and a capital offence.  It is neither of those things here and nor do we wish it to be.”


The only thing that inflicting your own values and beliefs on your child will do, is to bring resentment and misery into their lives and possibly a schism in your parent-child relationship that could last a lifetime.  Is that what you really want?  


I have seen too many families ripped apart and children disowned because they tried to flex their individual rights muscles or did something that brought dishonour onto their family or their community.


Nothing is more important to me than my child.  I don’t have a biological child.  I have a child I am looking after because his own parents thought it was more important to have the words of the Qu’ran literally beaten into him thousands of miles away in a madrassa in Pakistan.  


And where is that family now?  They too have fled to Pakistan for fear of what their son may say and how this may damage their own reputation and family ‘honour’.


Is this the love of a parent?
Is this a community who really cares?
Is this the sign of a community who really thinks the legal activities of teaching staff outside of school are more horrific than the beating and molestation of their children within one?


An Eye-for-an-Eye?
If only.  We would see a lot of Imams and parents beaten black-and-blue by their students/children.  
If only they would be so brave. 

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Yesterday, I made another appearance as an invited guest at a university debate. This time, members of The Hist society of Trinity College Dublin, Ireland, had to decide whether the believed that ‘pornography damages society’.

Both sides, made up of student and guest speakers, made some excellent and valid contributions, but the opposing team made up of myself and Jessi Fischer, one of my co-speakers of the winning team at Cambridge Union Society debate on porn, came out as clear victors as members of The Hist voted against the motion.

Yet again students of one of the world’s most elite educational institutions (and this time in a land that has been so dogged by religious control and indoctrination for decades) has demonstrated that pornography is not damaging to our society. Once again the voice of reason wins through!